Lillian Helene Unger 


Lillian Helene Unger (Simpson, Jager), our rock and our inspiration, has been promoted to

Heaven. She passed away peacefully at her home on Cape Cod on November 6 at the age of 90. Whether you called her Lil, mom, nana, sister, aunt or friend, she inspired us all by her strength, her positive energy, and her absolute love of life.

She was born to the late John J. Jager and Elsa M. Jager (Ahrens) on February 20, 1931, in Mineola, New York. After graduating from high school, she worked in New York City until she was swept off her feet by a handsome country man, Dean W. Simpson, and got married on July 21, 1956. Without hesitation, she moved to the Catskill Mountains and started an amazing life together with our dad.

As savvy business owners, Lil and Dean built a very successful paving business together and provided a wonderful life for our family. After losing Dean to ALS at the young age of 56, mom took over and the Three Musketeers (Mom, Janet and Gail) became resilient, independent and self-sufficient young women. Five years later, mom was blessed to meet and marry James Unger, sharing 11 wonderful years together until his passing.

She is survived by her daughters and sons-in-law, Janet and David Kumpu of Tampa, Florida, and Gail and Stephen O’Connell of Marshfield, Massachusetts. She is also survived by her five grandchildren that she loved with all her heart, Brendan, Kayla, Aili, Sean and Heidi. She also leaves behind her beloved younger sister, Viola A. Wieser, and her niece, Lori Wieser, and nephew, Ken Wieser.

Our mother’s wish was to have a celebration of life rather than a funeral. We will be planning this on Cape Cod in the spring/early summer 2022, and also in New York where she will be buried with our Dad. We will also have a celebration of life in Tampa in early 2022. Details to follow at a later date.

Dana Farber kept Mom alive for an additional 13 years after her breast cancer returned. She was very passionate about giving back to their research. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made online to: or mail to:  PMC 77 4th Ave. Needham Ma 02494 (Put ID: GO0015 on the check).

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